Big word, right? But you probably guessed that this must be about a fear of something because of the word ‘phobia’.
Metathesiophobia is the fear of changes.
Change is something that I personally have fought with, not because I hate it. If anything, I welcome change. But even so, people who welcome change or turn away change have one thing in common:
Most people are afraid of change.
I can say it now that I am afraid of change: different stages of life, friends that come and go, dreams that in reality, may never come true. It’s something that we all experience and it’s something that we all run into head on.
I have to say that this year for me is the biggest transformation year yet. It is the end of 13 years of school under a system where I was sheltered, but starting next year, it’s a completely new ball game and I will find myself with hundreds of other students in a gigantic lecture hall where I will be identified by number and not by name.
If I’m not freaking out, then I must be dreaming.
On top of that, people change as our lives change. We are all making new friends, trying new things, and moving on from others. The people you once had a crush on, it’s all old news now. The things that were so important to you, suddenly slip away.
I’m not sure if it’s because of age, but looking back now I can’t help but wonder at my naïve younger self. Everything was a big deal, but in retrospect, it was all miniscule.
Trying to fight off change is one of the hardest things you will ever do, and we have to realize that without change, we cannot make mistakes, learn and grow. Without change, we can’t make ourselves better people.
In one of my favourite novels, The Perks of Being a Wallflower, author Stephen Chbosky wrote, “Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn’t stop for anybody.”
This year, this is my ultimate goal: to not be afraid of change. Because like it or not, come June, my life will change whether I like it or not. Some time down the road, life will throw unexpected curveballs that will change all my existing plans. My “glass half full” thought for you? Stay on your feet and take everything in stride.